Sexological Bodyworker and Sexual Empowerment Coach CATHERINE HALE wants to talk about premature ejaculation!
PREMATURE ejaculation (PE) is men’s most prevalent sex problem and yet, being shrouded in shame and embarrassment, it’s not openly talked about. While men experiencing impotence can visit their GP and get some ‘blue pills’, they’re unlikely to receive any beneficial support for premature ejaculation. As men get older the likelihood of PE increases, but few men have successful strategies for dealing with it; they often avoid intimacy, blame it on their partners, pretend it’s okay, when deep inside it isn’t, or just declare that is part of getting older and then must learn to live with it. All resulting in a lack of sex, which we all know is essential for our well-being and success of most intimate relationships. Why does PE occur? Culturally many men are fed on a diet of porn leading it to become the chief sex educator in most western countries. Most porn is fast, genital, friction based and focused on the goal of ejaculation. When we watch porn and masturbate at the same time essentially we’re programming our bodies to follow the same upward trajectory as we see on the screen. This puts huge pressure on our nervous systems by pushing us into sympathetic arousal leading to rapid ejaculation, the penis has no other choice! The whole process is fed by our dopamine reward system, in that it feels good to ejaculate, so we keep on repeating the same habit and hard wire it into our neurology. What we are dealing with here is an addiction to ejaculation. Like with all addictions, it is possible to break this habit, by committing to a practice that supports the creation of new pleasure pathways. Learning how to regulate arousal with the breath, along with moving the pelvis to open it to create more space for sexual energy, combined with exploring new ways to touch the genitals and the whole body when engaging in masturbation is the way to the solution! Men’s partners report the shift from goal orientated sex, to a more playful sex where ejaculation is a choice and the intention is intimacy, creates more fulfilling sex and happier longer-lasting partnerships. I’ve been successfully working with men and couples supporting them to make this shift from premature ejaculation to ejaculatory choice by teaching them my ‘Ejaculatory Choice Program,’ through which I’ve witnessed hugely successful results. Now’s the time to make the changes and step into Ejaculatory Choice so you can have the fulfilling sexual experiences you’ve been longing for. If you want to discuss joining the program and having 1:1 coaching sessions with me then please get in touch. Contact firstname.lastname@example.org or see www.tantricawakening.org